Positive Parenting.

All parents are concerned about positive parenting. It is something that involves nearly all mothers and fathers. As devoted parents, we all want to have a healthy impact on our kids and help them to grow up feeling nurtured, safe, and cared for. With our hectic lives and our own "grown-up problems," It is not easy to do this?

How can we, as parents, 'show them the way'. while also being a 'care giver', for our young ones? One part of the answer to this question, is to seek for them the best. To emphasize the positive, and seek goodness and justice in every situation you encounter with your child.

The underlying principle here is that every situation that arises with your child is perfect, even when it's, at it's most troublesome point. Every situation has a positive side. Therefore, positive parenting begins with desiring to seek and find the 'positive', in any situation. Not easy, at certain times, for sure! But it can be done.

In the case of a common, 'conflict situation', for instance: You and your two children are in the car. One child wants to go to one place; one wants to go somewhere else. The bickering starts. It soon turns into fighting. What do you do? How do you choose where to go without making one kid feel hurt?

Positive parenting begins always with surrender and above all "neutrality", so a large part of the answer is to first see the fight as a good opportunity for you to practice "surrender in the midst of chaos."

Every fight and every squabble are 'mini teachers', for you to learn to make yourself, a true and strong, 'middle ground'. So don't say to yourself: "Oh no, they are at it again!" Instead, embrace the potential of the fight situation. See it as a chance for you to become more solid, more capable, and more positively instrumental as a parent. See it as a welcome invitation to practice all your "positive parenting skills".

So, the fight is not a problem, unless you allow it to be one. In fact, try not to even call it a fight. Perhaps you could call it a "parenting skills enhancer." Switch the label in your mind. Positive parenting begins in you! This positive outlook is where your actions must flow from.

A Positive attitude naturally requires, you are going to have to take action. You must be the 'referee', for your two bickering kids. This is to be expected. But if you are not fighting their fight, by judging it. Then you will be far more effective in helping them find the solution to the problem.

So, keeping your intent on positive parenting, try to listen to your kids. Let each one speak their mind. Indeed make each one have a chance to really be heard. Let each of the kids feel as if they are being seen and acknowledged. You will be a far better guide if you are calm in yourself. And the only way to do that is to not take sides. To do that you must feel alert and to stay 'centered'.

Teach your kids by way of example. You should make yourself be the solution, instead of seeking it. Soon you will find squabbles will feel much more entertaining, rather than feeling like unwanted nuisances. And furthermore the respect and kudos you as a parent experience. Will make you feel good and the kids will benefit too, which is the main aim of the exercise in the first place.